Healthy Relationships (Interpersonal Effectiveness)
Ostracism recovery requires a real physical friend, acceptance within a network of live people, and a place in the social order. Some ostracized people might feel like this is impossible to obtain for themselves. I want to encourage you that no matter how bleak your situation feels it will get better. You are not going to feel hurt and lonely forever. You will be able to make positive changes for yourself a little bit at a time, and that will assist you in making new friends.
- How to Make Friends And Get a Social Life - by Chris MacLeod, MSW
- How to Make Friends - by WikiHow
- Book: "How To Win Friends & Influence People - by Dale Carnegie
- 13 Ways to Make Friends - by Therese J. Borchard
Learn Nonverbals
93% of the messages we send are perceived based on nonverbal communication, according to "Psychology Today." Studies show that people who are able to read, understand, and correctly respond to nonverbal social cues are more likely to develop positive peer relationships and avoid ostracism.
- Three key factors to help children avoid social rejection identified - By ScienceDaily - "Neurobehavioral researchers at Rush University Medical Center have found three key factors in a child's behavior that can lead to social rejection. The studies are a crucial step in developing scientifically sound screening tests and treatment planning for social-emotional learning difficulties."
- Effects of Nonverbal Communication - A comprehensive collection of articles on nonverbal communication - Kinesics Training, How to Teach Communication to Nonverbal Children, Barriers to Nonverbal Communication, and more
- Kinesics - kinesics.com - Body Language Training and Kinesics Interviewing - Learn the real emotions behind the mask - Take action based in science not guess work
- The Facial Action Coding System (FACS) - By Bryn Farnsworth, Ph.D, PostDoc. & Expert Content Writer
- Dr. Paul Ekman - Cutting Edge Behavioral Science for Real World Applications
- Video - Kinesics - Nonverbal Communication - By Keen to learn
- Video - Nonverbal Communication ~Messages Beyond Words ~ Assignment #3 - Kinesics & Face/Eye Behaviors - by Olivia Patane & Jordan Whately
Set Boundaries
Healthy boundaries can save a few relationships and prevent some forms of ostracism. Perhaps you experienced ostracism due to unhealthy boundaries with yourself or other people. Or, perhaps you were ostracized after setting boundaries with someone who did not respect or love you. Don't let ostracism cause you compromise values that are important.
